Healing from Miscarriage Through Writing with Shani Rogers, Author of Blue & Pink Balloons
*Trigger warning for miscarriage*
Shani Rogers, the author of the book "Blue and Pink Balloons," a narrative crafted for her daughter that addresses the sensitive topic of miscarriage. Shani shares her story of trying for a second and healing from miscarriage. Together, Shani and Julia, who also shares her journey through miscarriage, shed light on the prevalence of this experience among women.
Often, amidst the turmoil of miscarriage within a family, the experiences of siblings can be overlooked. Yet, they, too, undergo a profound sense of loss. Collaborating with her four-year-old daughter, Shani found therapeutic value in writing this book for herself and her daughter. "Blue and Pink Balloons" serves as a valuable tool for initiating discussions about miscarriage with children. Consider sharing this episode with a friend or family member grappling with similar experiences.
IN THIS EPISODE:
[2:10] Shani shares her story about her miscarriage and how frequently it had happened among her peers
[5:16] Julia discusses her own miscarriage experience
[6:56] Shani walks through learning she has had a miscarriage
[12:14] Shani and her husband share the news with their daughter
[15:12] How her daughter dealt with the miscarriage
[19:37] Shani talks about how she walked her daughter through the loss and how the book came about
[23:19] Shani advises mothers who have lost a baby or those who are pregnant and are experiencing fear
[27:48] Shani discusses how her husband comforted her and took care of their daughter
[31:41] Trying again to have another child and how Shani defines family
KEY TAKEAWAYS:
Losing a child through miscarriage not only affects the parents but has a profound effect on children at home.
Talking about the miscarriage with their sibling is healthy. It allows them to express their feelings in a way that’s comfortable with them.
People can be insensitive to the loss of a baby through miscarriage. Better to say nothing than, “ Oh well, you can get pregnant again.”
RESOURCE LINKS:
Amazon -Blue and Pink Balloons Journey
Instagram - Blue and Pink Balloons
BIOGRAPHY:
Shani Rogers is, first and foremost, a devoted wife and mother to two incredible children. Born and raised in Long Beach, California, she spends her free time working, volunteering at her kids' school, attending her daughter's dance practices, or watching her son at the baseball field. When she gets some downtime, she enjoys relaxing and spending time with family and friends, often with an iced coffee in hand.
Shani's children's book, "Blue & Pink Balloons," is a real-life story based on the miscarriage their family experienced when their daughter was on the brink of her fourth birthday. It narrates the story from the perspective of their daughter, detailing her wishes for a sibling, the excitement of becoming one, and the sadness of losing the baby. This book validates children's feelings in times of loss and assures them they are loved, regardless of the circumstances.
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