Beyond my Wildest Dreams with Mia - the magic of things working out following divorce, PCOS, and miscarriage
Mia is 39 and pregnant with her first child after becoming diagnosed with PCOS and having a few miscarriages along her fertility journey. She joins Julia on this episode of Stork’d to speak on the challenges of being divorced in her mid-thirties and not letting her biological clock stop her from making her dreams of becoming a mother a reality. Mia describes the transformation she has undergone in the past few years before becoming pregnant, detailing the roles of emotional intuition and logic in her journey to accepting her past, letting go of old dating patterns, and finding her current partner.
She shares her experience with emotionally exploring alternative paths to parenthood, the struggles of dating people who don’t want to have kids with you, and having two consecutive miscarriages. Please tune in to hear powerful, yet comforting words from Mia as she shares a message about the challenges, anxiety, and fear during the fertility journey and how pregnancy has helped her overcome those fears and build trust.
Takeaways:
It’s important to work on not feeling resentful or angry when someone else can’t make you feel a certain way.
Relying on yourself for emotional stability and happiness is part of having healthy relationships.
Build the life that you need to support the person you are today, as opposed to who you used to be.
Associating your own lovability and desirability with someone’s desire to have kids with you may not be healthy for you.
Some people just don’t want to or aren’t ready to have kids when you are. At the same time, the spark of wanting to have kids with someone is born out of love.
It’s rare for someone who really wants to have a child to never have one. There are many options and avenues you can take to get there.
Having age and maturity when you start something, especially a relationship or a family, is a blessing.
Mia’s definition of family: The people she’s fully committed to supporting their path, wherever their path leads.
In This Episode:
[ 0:00 ] Introducing Mia
[ 0:37 ] There’s beauty in a balance between excitement and downtime in life
[ 1:31 ] The magic in realizing her dreams are coming true
[ 2:31 ] Where did your hope and dream for having children come from?
[ 4:44 ] Mia’s feelings about her ex and her divorce
[ 6:46 ] After divorce and before pregnancy: The transformation Mia has taken in the
last few years
[ 11:06 ] Was the shift in life after divorce intentional or more natural and effortless?
[ 12:30 ] Taking a year off of dating + Beating old dating patterns while the biological
clock was ticking
[ 14:46 ] The stigma of late 30s desire to have kids or “kid hunger” + The struggles of
dating people who don’t want to have kids with you
[ 17:30 ] Mia’s fertility journey: Discovering she has PCOS + Her frustrations with PCOS
[ 20:54 ] Emotionally exploring alternative paths to parenthood: Sperm donation
[ 24:48 ] Figuring out her partner was the one she wanted to start a family with +
Compromises they had to make for each other
[ 28:00 ] Her thoughts and feelings around her miscarriages and the impacts they had
on their life
[ 31:35 ] How do you find the benefits or gratitude in the dark, difficult moments of life?
[ 32:36 ] What was the dream of family you had in mind?
[ 34:36 ] How her pregnancy has helped her develop trust and overcome fear
[ 35:13 ] Mia’s message about having challenges, anxiety, and fear during the fertility
journey
[ 35:45 ] Mia’s definition of family
